I just can't win.

I'm really sorry to hear this and I'm sure things will start to get better soon. Just keep being the amazing person that you are :)

Holy crap what an awful experience to go through, don’t let them grind you down. Say nothing to fuel their toxic little lives/community and when you can, get out, move on. In the meantime smile, be polite, greet them with a cheery hello, good morning but have nothing to do with them, now or in the future. You are better than them.

Wishing you all the very best J&M

If you omitted it off your work record and then they found out, it was right for them to ask for a reference as the most recent employer. I think them finding out that you tried to hide it made them suspicious hence asking for the reference

If you signed and returned the contract then I think legally you are due payment for the notice period, the length of which will be in the contract. Enforcing it may be fun though

Hopefully you’ll find a much better job and working environment soon. Anywhere would be lucky to have you

BigBaldTone said

By law, I am sure you cannot be given a negative reference, so that may be worth following up?

Sorry to hear it's been a bit shite, but all good things come to those that wait...

Lastly, what goes around and it'll be great when it does

Stu H said

BigBaldTone

Unfortunately, that's not correct... you might want to read the two links posted above.

Certainly made me reconsider what I *thought* I knew

Thankyou - I also now know better about what I thought I knew.

Tabitha Boydell said

If you omitted it off your work record and then they found out, it was right for them to ask for a reference as the most recent employer. I think them finding out that you tried to hide it made them suspicious hence asking for the reference

If you signed and returned the contract then I think legally you are due payment for the notice period, the length of which will be in the contract. Enforcing it may be fun though

Hopefully you’ll find a much better job and working environment soon. Anywhere would be lucky to have you

Yes I have all of my travel expereince on my cv as it was a travel management job and I didn't think pulling pints was relevant but I happily gave them the reference when they asked for it. Im gutted because I have been trying to get back into travel for ages and have a massive customer base already but it is a very catty industry (as you may well know from the tour operator days) I've had a interview for something else today and booked in a few shoots and a mini tour to tide me over xxxx

That sucks, hope things turn around for you. Good luck

FarmerSteve said

FiL many employers will only ever give the basic factual employment details in a reference - particularly those with a professional HR department.

In my experience, "professional HR department" is a bit of an oxymoron  ...

Gothic Image said

FarmerSteve said

FiL many employers will only ever give the basic factual employment details in a reference - particularly those with a professional HR department.

In my experience, "professional HR department" is a bit of an oxymoron  ...

:), I worked with several and I can only agree.